The Complete Guide to Giving and Getting Respect

Respect makes our relationships run more smoothly. Feeling appreciated puts us at ease and helps us to bond more closely. We share a sincere regard for each other. We know that our welfare matters, and we treat each other with courtesy and fairness.

Fortunately, our actions can help us to gain more respect. Giving and getting respect amount to much the same thing. The more you give, the more you’re likely to receive in return.

These suggestions can help you enjoy more respect from others and feel more valued.

Giving Respect to Others

1. Focus on your motivation. Know that being respectful is worthwhile in itself regardless of how others respond. All creatures possess great value. You’re correct whenever you honor them. Your example may inspire them to do the same.

2. Listen attentively. Respect begins when we understand each other. Pay close attention to what people say and do. Concentrate on the other person’s message rather than preparing your response. Take turns talking.

3. Count your blessings. It’s easier to think well of people when you remember all the services they provide for you. Spend a few minutes reflecting on all you get from others.

4. Accommodate others. Try to make joint decisions about family vacations or dividing up assignments at work. Take everyone’s needs into consideration. Give their suggestions a chance to succeed.

5. Repair conflicts. You’re bound to run into disagreements sometimes. Face them head on. Negotiate in good faith. Apologize for your part in the situation and aim for an agreement that is fair to all the parties involved.

6. Evaluate your closest relationships. Respect often matters most when it comes to our spouse, children, and other loved ones. Step back so you can recognize their autonomy.

Getting Respect from Others

1. Honor your commitments. Keep your word. It’s better to avoid telling a client that their kitchen will be completed in a month if you know it often takes 60 days or more.

2. Think before speaking. Do your research before you comment on a subject. Ask yourself if you’re adding anything valuable to a discussion. Imagine how you would feel if you were on the receiving end of your own feedback and choose your words accordingly.

3. Communicate directly. Being straightforward sometimes requires courage, but the rewards are worth it. Ask for what you need. Extend the same opportunity to others.

4. Learn to say no. Turn down requests graciously if you believe they are unreasonable or you have other commitments. Making the best use of your time is shrewd, not selfish.

5. Decline being taken for granted. If your generosity seems wasted, you may be right. Be selective about how you give away your time, money, and other resources. Support charities that welcome your offer to volunteer. Exchange hospitality with friends who invite you back.

6. Acknowledge your rights. As much as possible, give because you want to rather than out of a feeling of obligation or a desire to please others. The results will be much more consistent and satisfying.

7. Recognize your power. We all have immense power in the sense that we can use our abilities to actually make the world a better place. Let your influence brighten someone else’s day by showing them that you recognize their dignity and worth.

If you sometimes feel like respect is lacking in modern society, try offering more of it. Everyone is worthy of respect, and your efforts to respect others will enhance your own life.

Glen Murdoch

Glen Murdoch is the founder and CEO of The Life Coaching College. He has a long history of working with Athletes and Teams as a Performance Coach and Analyst and has developed Australia's number 1 Life Coaching College.