Overcoming Negative Thoughts
As a Life Coach I’ve come to realize that nearly everyone falls prey to negative thoughts sometimes. It’s like watching a movie that begins with lovely clear skies and happiness and seeing it turn into scary dark clouds and horror. The tough thing is that in my clients case there’s no eerie music to alert them when that turn takes place in our minds from positive to negative. You can only tune into your thoughts once in a while to see how we’re doing. Coaches teach you to become much better at this!
When you catch yourself choosing and then thinking negatively there are a few things you can do – actually practice – that can help you overcome the choice of negativity and get yourself into that “happy ending.” Did you notice that I used the word ‘choice’?
Here are some things that really worked for me….
- Adjust the tone of your voice, both inner and outer. When you find that your speaking or thinking tone is harsh and negative, change it to a lighter and more positive tone. I’m a loud talker and I find it puts people off so I work on softening my voice and putting some smile into it!
- Meditation. Finding some time for yourself (and I mean even 5 minutes) to meditate or just relax and restore your energy levels can do wonders for your whole day. What if you also combine some yoga stretches or deep breathing ( count 7 in and 11 out) , you can make bigger leaps.
- Smile. As a Life Coach I constantly tell me clients to smile…The best way to diffuse a negative situation or create a positive one is to smile – really smile, with your eyes and your entire face and demeanor. It lifts a mood almost instantaneously and help to relieve stress too (and it takes less facial muscles to smile than to frown).
- Help someone else. Make your day about someone else… They say the secret to living is giving…And, how can you think and project negative thoughts when you’re so happy?
- Keep a gratitude journal. Those who have had to overcome great obstacles in their lives say they kept and still do keep a gratitude journal and wrote a few things in it every day that they were grateful for. It helped to get them through bad times.
- Choose positive people to be around. You may have to work with negative people, and you may have some in your own family, but your friends that you choose can be positive ones who help you put things into perspective when you’re thinking negatively.
Do whatever works for you to lift your spirits and get you out of negative self-talk. Some people exercise. That gets the endorphins flowing and keeps you from becoming depressed.
Dancing and singing are also proven mood lifters. You don’t have to be good enough for “Australian Idol” or “Dancing with the Stars.” Just dance or sing unfiltered and see how the stress can melt away.
You are in charge of the choices you make in life and you can either choose to be a negative or a positive person to go through life.