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Top 10 Tips for Staying Motivated When You’re Unemployed

Losing your job is painful. There are many days when you may feel discouraged because the job market is complicated and the competition for jobs is fierce. In order to get through a period of unemployment, it’s important to use whatever resources you can to stay motivated.

Try these tips to boost your motivation while you search for a new job:

1. Utilize the power of the internet. Save time and money! Many tasks that will help you get a job are activities you can do more efficiently online.

* Research companies, fill out applications, and join online networking groups to streamline your job search.

2. Work on your job search each day. Spend five days of the week actively looking for a job. Pick the ones that will work best for you. In most cases, that would be Monday through Friday. Take the other two days off.

3. Use your unemployment funds wisely. Pay bills that are necessary but limit other things, like social outings, to a minimum.

* If you need to borrow money from a friend or family member, do so. Having the money you need to get by will take a lot of stress off of you.

4. Eat nutritious food. Stressful times tend to weaken your immune system, so include plenty of extra fruits and vegetables in your diet to help your body be at its best. Protein is also necessary for keeping your energy levels up when you’re looking for work.

* Trying to gain or lose weight at this time doesn’t usually work well. You’re more likely to be successful with your weight goals if you put off dieting until after you’ve found another position.

5. Exercise regularly. Enjoy whatever type of exercise that you’re used to doing. This can be dancing, running, walking, or any other type of activity that you wish.

* Exercise reduces stress, brings you energy, keeps you alert, increases your feelings of well-being, and strengthens your health. All of these benefits will help keep you motivated while looking for a job.

6. Get plenty of rest. It may be difficult to sleep at times when you’re looking for work, but it’s better to try. For optimum benefits, shoot for 7 or 8 hours of good quality sleep.

* Avoid caffeine or computer screens for several hours before bedtime to make it easier to get your rest.

7. Use your friends for support. Don’t be afraid to enlist the help of your friends. Explain to them that you’re between jobs and actively looking for work. Tell them what you’re looking for and your background and skills.

* Your friends may know of a company that is looking for someone just like you!

8. Make an effort to keep in touch with previous co-workers. Co-workers from your previous job may also have job ideas and leads for you.

9. Watch your transportation costs. Cutting back on your gas mileage will save you money. It will also prevent a lot of wasted time. Only go to companies that you’ve contacted and have an interview with, so you aren’t just pounding the pavement.

10. Schedule some “me time” each day. When you’re unemployed, you might find that you’re actually working harder than ever. Plus, the stress is highly taxing – both mentally and physically. It’s important to re-energize and boost your morale by engaging in activities that bring you pleasure.

* Try to spend an hour each day doing something you love. Whether you immerse yourself in a hobby or a good book, or even just take a nap, enjoy your special time however you like. Pamper yourself. You deserve it!

Finding a new job almost always takes longer than we want it to, but you can stay motivated by using these tips. Stay focused and dedicated, and you’re determination will pay off.

The Stay At Home Dad’s Guide to Being Taken Seriously

While there is a growing number of stay at home dads, they still represent a very small segment of the population. If you’re one of these pioneers, you may be amused to see that there’s a reality TV show on AMC in your honor. On the other hand, you may want a little more practical assistance than what you see on Modern Dads.

A recent study by the Pew Research Center found that the number of U.S. dads who stay at home while their spouses work full time has almost doubled since the 1970s. The number is now estimated at over 500,000 and still growing. Unfortunately, there’s also evidence that men may face stiffer career consequences than women for taking time away from the workforce.

If you’re a stay at home dad, you may want to consider these suggestions regarding yourself, your family, and your employment plans. They may help you take better care of your family and get taken more seriously.

Steps to Take with Your Family

1. Discuss expectations with your partner. Child rearing may be the most important issue to discuss with your partner. Ensure you agree on the major points.

2. Answer your children’s questions. Your kids are bound to realize their family seems a little different from their friends and classmates. Be open to their questions and answer them with age-appropriate information.

3. Divide responsibilities equitably. That same Pew study found that some men who stay at home appear to be doing curiously little housework. If that sounds like you, take some initiative and start cleaning.

4. Make a savings plan. It’s difficult for many families to get by on a single paycheck. Set money aside regularly, even if it’s a small amount, so you have some savings and an emergency fund.

5. Enlist broader support. Find strength in relatives who respect your decisions. Make an effort to stay in touch and seek their support.

Steps to Take with Yourself

1. Be positive. Family and friends will pick up on your confident and cheerful attitude. Your kids are especially sensitive to your mood.

2. Join a support group. Reach out to other men in similar circumstances. You may find a support group online or in your neighborhood.

3. Discuss differences tactfully. You may encounter people who hold strong viewpoints about traditional gender roles. Try to look at it as an opportunity to present yourself as a constructive role model rather than interpreting their reaction as a personal criticism.

Steps to Take with Employment

1. Explore innovative work arrangements. The nature of work has changed dramatically since the internet and the most recent recession. If you want to still work outside the home, think about taking on some freelance or contract work, working part time, or sharing a position. These options will help you stay connected to the workforce.

2. Assess the culture. If you receive a job offer, talk with your potential coworkers before accepting it. Check out their experience with being able to leave early for an occasional school event or if there’s the ability to work from home when your child is ill.

3. Study your benefits. Similarly, read the employment manual. Some employers offer paid parental leave and day care. Understanding your benefits and compensation will help you decide if it’s financially worthwhile for you and your partner to both work outside the home.

4. Promote fairness. Make allies by taking everyone’s needs into consideration when it comes to balancing work and home life. Your future colleagues may have elderly parents who they care for or other responsibilities outside of the workplace.

Compared to a generation ago, fathers are already spending about three times as many hours with their children, and most want to increase that amount even further. Staying at home with your children could be the best decision you ever make. You’ll probably end up feeling like it was well worth anything you had to sacrifice along the way.

The Modern Rules For Matchmaking

Even in these days of eHarmony and, there are advantages to meeting people through family and friends. Online dating sites can help you find thousands of people you would be unlikely to come across in your daily life. However, your loved ones may also have insight into who would be a compatible partner for you.

Maybe you’re hankering to introduce your plumber to your tennis instructor. Maybe you dream about your best friend’s cousin. Try these tips for setting up a date or being set up on one.

How to Set Your Friends Up on a Date

1. Ask for permission. Find out whether your friend is interested in dating. She may be healing from a recent divorce or consumed with launching a new business. If the timing is off, maybe she’ll still appreciate your thoughtfulness and get back to you when her situation changes.

2. Rehearse your introduction. Explain why you think two people would be a good match. Do they share a love for opera or volley ball? Do they both want to marry and live outside the city?

3. Listen closely. One of the most effective ways to figure out what would make your friends click is to pay attention to them. The things they talk about could reveal what they want.

4. Share a photo. Your coworker’s definition of gorgeous could be very different from your own. Present a photograph to avoid misunderstandings.

5. Check your motives. If you’re secretly attracted to someone, it’s easy to let those feelings persuade you to pair them up with someone else. Ensure that you’ll be happy for the new couple if things work out.

6. Stand back. You’re probably going to be curious about whatever happens on the first date. Learning a few details is intriguing. Becoming too involved is disruptive.

7. Live and learn. If your first match fails to ignite, refine your strategy. Experience and practice makes you more insightful.

How to Be Set Up on a Date

1. Advertise your availability. Taking out a billboard would be extreme, but it’s okay to let your loved ones know you want to meet new suitors. That way, they can be on the lookout for you.

2. Let go of expectations. We’re often unclear about how to build a lasting relationship. Relax and enjoy each other’s company on a date. If you’re compatible, the chemistry may emerge gradually.

3. Talk face to face. Getting together for a cup of coffee beats texting when it comes to forming a more accurate impression of someone. Focus on real world interactions.

4. Behave courteously. Etiquette matters online. It’s even more important when you have mutual friends. Smile, make eye contact, and speak kindly.

5. Decide on a second date. The only thing you need to figure out on most first dates is whether you would like to see each other at least one more time. If you find someone appealing, let them know.

6. Hire a professional. You may also want to try working with a paid matchmaking service. Browse for options online or in your neighborhood. Study contracts carefully before signing.

7. Try again. A happy relationship is worth searching for. Express your gratitude to your friends so they’ll keep sharing their contacts. Read about relationships and communication skills so you’ll be ready for love wherever you encounter it.

If finding a romantic partner is important to you, look for love in multiple places. Find your next date over the internet or through your next door neighbor. It can be fun and rewarding to bring couples together whether you’re arranging a match or being set up yourself.

The Essentials of Personal Transformation

Feeling stuck or frustrated with life often precedes the decision to make a personal transformation. Making a meaningful change is both exciting and distressing. Our brains are wired to make change uncomfortable and more challenging than it needs to be. Focusing on the most important aspects of personal change can make the process smoother and easier. The odds of success are greatly enhanced, too.

Include these essentials in your personal transformation process:

1. Decide. Making a true decision might be the most powerful thing you can do. A true decision cuts off all other possibilities. Most of us fail to truly decide. We make weak decisions and fail to stick with them. The constant vacillation between multiple options is worse than making no decision at all.

* Narrow down your options to just a couple of choices and then pick one. After the careful consideration you’ve done in the narrowing process, one choice is probably as good as another when you only have a couple of options left. Picking a sub optimal
choice is also better than failing to make a choice.

2. Create a deadline. Have you ever noticed how projects expand to fill the allotted time? If your boss gave you two weeks to complete a project, you’d probably be scrambling at the last minute to get it done.

* Choose a deadline that’s reasonable, not too stressful for you, but still aggressive. You can get more accomplished than you realize.

* The lack of a timetable ensures the transformation process will take much longer than necessary.

3. Have an exciting vision. Ensure that you have a clear picture of how your personal transformation will positively impact your life. If that vision doesn’t fill you with excitement, you’re going to need a new vision for your future. Making a big change is challenging. Without a compelling expected future, it will be hard to persevere.

4. Address your limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs don’t directly limit your ability to transform. However, they can severely limit your ability to take action. If don’t believe you can succeed, you’ll never complete the hard work required to see a transformation.

* Make a list of all the beliefs you have about yourself and the world that could be limiting your progress. Address each of them one by one. Make a list of counterexamples to that belief. What is the disadvantage of continuing to accept that belief? What new belief could you install in its place?

* It’s challenging to find and eliminate all the limiting beliefs you hold, but doing so guarantees your ultimate success.

* Consider any experiences in your past that fill you with a sense of failure. These memories can often hold clues to your limiting beliefs.

5. Measure your progress. Any significant transformation will take time. Weight is lost a little at a time. Skills are gained over time. Develop a way to track your progress and review it regularly. Seeing progress is motivating. It also lets you know where you stand. Enjoy your results and permit it to increase your enthusiasm.

Making a successful personal transformation is one of the quickest ways to positively change your life.

Create a compelling future and be determined that you’ll reach it by your deadline. Work on your limiting beliefs. They are the greatest impediment to your ability to change. Finally, measure your progress along your journey. The feedback and motivation it provides are invaluable.

Strategies to Increase Your Luck

Who isn’t at least a little superstitious? Athletes have lucky socks. A businessman has a lucky suit. Anyone can increase the amount of luck they experience in life. Of course, you’re not truly creating luck. You’re putting yourself in a better position to create and notice useful opportunities and circumstances. Being luckier is largely a state of mind. Even so, it’s a pleasant experience!

Try these strategies to increase the amount of luck in your life:

1. Expect good things to happen. You tend to receive what you expect. Does your brain have a magical ability to influence your environment? Perhaps you’re just better at noticing the things that you think about. Have you ever bought a car and then suddenly noticed the same make and model at an alarming frequency?

* The more you focus on the positive events, the more you’ll notice them. You can only take advantage of the things you notice.

2. Follow your gut. Your brain receives a lot of information from your environment, far more than you’re capable of dealing with on a conscious level. Your brain is also amazingly adept at solving problems. The messages your brain is sending might be subtle, but they’re present. That little voice that tells you to turn left instead of right? Listen to it.

3. Give yourself more opportunities to be lucky. Be open and alert. Plenty of great opportunities are passing you by each day. Get out in the world and engage fully. Static environments don’t have a lot of luck to offer. You’ll never be lucky while sitting on your couch.

4. Be mindful and present in the moment. If you’re busy daydreaming, worrying about the future, or regretting the past, you’ll probably miss out on lots of opportunities to be lucky. This might be the most effective tip for putting yourself in a position to notice all that life has to offer.

5. Minimize the stress in your life. Either get a handle on the people and things that are creating stress in your life or enhance your ability to deal with them successfully. If you’re stressed, you can’t see the luckiness around you.

6. Experiment. Choose to be lucky and measure your success. Decide that you’re going to find 25 quarters over the next month. Remind yourself several times each day and visualize yourself finding quarters. Keep track of how many you find. You’ll be surprised by how many your find and where you find them. Try it!

7. Get busy. The harder you work, the luckier you’ll be. If you spend 10 hours each day digging for gold nuggets, you’ll find a lot more than if you’re only digging for 2 hours. The luckiest people are often those that put in the most time.

8. Learn. Your ability to be lucky grows with your knowledge. The more you know, the better you can make use of the items and people that cross your path.

9. Be generous. When you do things for others, you’ll find your life fills with more opportunities. Be generous with your time and wealth.

10. Deal with bad luck effectively. A little bad luck can derail the positive attitude that’s so important to receiving good luck. Sometimes things don’t turn out the way you’d like. Rather than dwelling on it: learn from it, make the best of it, and move on.

If you want to experience more luck in your life, give yourself more chances to be lucky. Keep your mind in the present but look forward to a bright future. Expect good things to happen and you’ll happily enjoy more of the luck you seek.

Self-Belief: 7 Tips to Get Your Mind on Your Side

Self-belief isn’t optional. It’s vital. Think of all the things you haven’t accomplished or tried because you didn’t have enough belief in yourself. Self-doubt will always creep in at times. That’s why it’s so important to have an excess of belief in yourself.

Create a reserve of self-belief and you really can accomplish nearly anything you can imagine. What would you do if you believed you could do essentially anything? How would your life be different? How would you feel?

If you need a little more faith in yourself, read on:

1. Examine your beliefs. You weren’t born with any limiting beliefs. You learned every single one of them. We all learn to limit ourselves unfairly. Give yourself the credit you deserve.

* Think about the limiting beliefs you already have. Do what you can to discard them. Ask yourself if this limiting belief is really legitimate. Where did it come from? What evidence do you have that it simply isn’t true?

2. Give yourself an unlimited number of opportunities to be successful. It’s easy to be filled with doubt if you think you only have once chance to get it right. Give yourself permission to “fail” as many times as necessary. Learn something from each attempt. This is a great way to build self-belief.

3. Eliminate self-criticism. As soon as self-doubt starts to invade your thoughts, ask yourself where that inner critic is coming from.

* Are you channeling a negative experience from the past?

* Is the source of this criticism credible? It rarely is.

* It can be challenging to quiet your mind, but that doesn’t mean you have to let it drag you down. Focus on positive self-talk.

4. Trust and love yourself. For one month, try being your best friend instead of your worst enemy. How do you treat your best friend or your children? Probably a lot better than you treat yourself. Give yourself the gift of kindness.

5. Coach yourself. Everyone needs a little support and encouragement. So when you find yourself struggling, consider what you would say to someone that you really believed in if they were feeling the same way you are. When self-doubt starts to creep in, take a few minutes to coach yourself.

6. Think about how you would like to act. Think about how you would think and behave if you were full of self-confidence.

* You can effectively borrow traits from others, too. Who are some of your heroes? Sometimes it easier to imagine others dealing with a situation than to imagine ourselves. See yourself acting the way your hero would act.

7. Remember all your past victories. We’ve all accomplished some pretty impressive things, but we’re quick to forget them. Grab a pen and some paper and list all the successes you’ve experienced in life, no matter how great or small.

* If you need help, ask a trusted friend or family member. You might be surprised at what you hear.

Self-belief isn’t about becoming arrogant or turning a blind-eye to one’s flaws. The belief you have in yourself needs to be focused on what you wish to become. You can have weaknesses. Everyone does. But there is value in being relaxed about your weaknesses and working to strengthen them.

A strong belief in yourself is a sure ticket to reaching great success. Build your self-belief and seemingly impossible tasks can become routine.

Say Goodbye to Losing Your Cool at Work

It’s easy to lose your temper at work when the computer runs slowly or meetings turn tense. Fortunately, you can train yourself to keep your cool so you’ll be seen as a leader and excel at your job.

Learn to work well under pressure, and gain your colleagues’ trust by appearing confident and relaxed. Practice these ideas for keeping your composure or restoring it quickly.

Keeping Your Cool at Work

Preventing emotional outbursts is the safest approach. Take control of your emotions to reduce the risk of having a meltdown.

1. Adopt a healthy lifestyle. Appreciate the mind-body connection. Taking care of your physical health prepares you for emotional stability and serenity. Eat a nutritious diet, exercise daily, and enjoy good quality sleep.

2. Think positive. Remind yourself of your talents and achievements. Give yourself a pep talk when you’re trying to satisfy a demanding customer or figure out how to use a new app.

3. Spot your triggers. Maybe time constraints or interpersonal conflicts are at the root of your anxieties. Most employees will find that their personal challenges can be sorted into a few general categories. Identify the areas where you want to develop more effective habits.

4. Set realistic goals. Perfectionism can undermine your career. Review your to do list to ensure that it’s feasible. Focus on your highest priorities. Look for tasks that you can delegate or drop.

5. Choose your words carefully. Count to 10 when you find yourself tempted to speak harshly. Stick to the facts and encourage cooperation.

6. Watch your body language. To be credible, your smile needs to match your words. Scan yourself from head to toe. Unclench your jaw and lower your shoulders. Catch yourself before you roll your eyes or furrow your brows.

7. Take a break. If possible, schedule your toughest assignments for the times when you’re at peak performance. Postpone a sensitive discussion for later if you need to calm down and sort out your options.

Restoring Your Composure

Even the most unflappable professional can have a day when their temper flares. Quick and skillful action will help you to smooth things over.

1. Accept your emotions. Embracing your feelings is the first step in managing them. You can choose how to act whether you’re concerned about layoffs or irritated with a client who pays their invoices late. Be honest with yourself about how you feel while you concentrate on your desired outcomes.

2. Hold yourself accountable. Accept responsibility for your decisions. Maybe you criticized your assistant in public when a private session would have been more considerate and productive.

3. Apologize sincerely. Let your colleagues know that you value them and regret any actions that may have had a negative impact on them. Offer to repair the situation if possible. Be patient if it takes time to heal your relationship.

4. Welcome feedback. Your boss and coworkers may want to have their say about the situation. Deal constructively with criticism so you can benefit from others who may have a different perspective on what happened. Listen attentively and avoid interrupting. Follow up to let people know that you’re grateful for how their observations have helped you.

5. Learn from experience. Adversity is a powerful teacher. A difficult day at work may wind up advancing your career if you gain the wisdom to handle similar situations more gracefully in the future.

Impress your colleagues with your poise and patience when the copier jams or an important package winds up being delivered to the wrong address. Maintaining your composure at work enables you to triumph over uncertainties and frustrations.

Reap the Benefits of Staying Focused at Work

It’s imperative to stay focused at work if you wish to meet your deadlines and succeed in your career. However, such concentration isn’t always easy to achieve. Something always seems to sabotage even your best efforts. Someone calls a meeting, a client throws a monkey wrench in your plans for the day, or your child gets sick at school.

How can you sail past these normal interruptions and keep your focus?

Implement these strategies into your work routines:

1. Set priorities. Setting priorities is integral to planning your day. Schedule the most difficult tasks early in the day and the easier ones later. When prioritizing your day, make a list of your required tasks. This will keep you organized as you tackle each and every issue.

2. Limit distractions and interruptions. Keep your work area as free from distractions and interruptions as possible by maintaining quiet surroundings.

* Ask others to wait a moment until you’re finished with what needs to be completed before helping them with something they need done. Closing your office doors may be necessary so others realize that you’re working and not available for questions at the time.

3. Make work fun. You’re allowed to enjoy your work. In fact, those who love their work are more efficient. Find something that you like about your job. Use the fun aspect daily to give you a heightened ability to focus on your work.

4. Complete duties in the easiest way possible. For many tasks, there’s more than one way to achieve a satisfactory, or even exemplary, result. Pick the way that is easiest for you to get the desired result.

* Experiment with a variety of different ways to learn which ones work best for you.

5. Stand and stretch. If you have a job where you sit most of the day, take breaks to stretch and move around. You might also want to take a short walk outside. When you get back to your desk, you’ll feel refreshed and be better able to focus on your work.

6. Drink coffee or another beverage. Many people love to have their coffee during their workday. If this is something that you enjoy, go ahead and partake in a cup or two. As a stimulant, coffee might help you to stay focused on what you need to do. On the other hand, water is always a wonderful, refreshing choice.

7. Have your vision checked regularly. If you’re having challenges with concentrating or are developing regular headaches, this may be due to an issue with your vision. Have your eyes checked on a regular basis.

* When you’re working, glance away from your computer screen from time to time in order to take the strain off of your eyes and refresh your thought processes.

8. Keep a motivating picture nearby. Perhaps it motivates you to think of how your work helps you to take care of your family. In this case, a picture of your loved ones could be your motivating image. You might have a favorite affirmation, saying, or image of your main goal that motivates you to work harder, so a picture of this could remind you to stay on track.

Staying focused at work will make you look impressive to your superiors and coworkers. Use these tips each day to enhance your ability to concentrate and achieve the goals that you have set for yourself.

Learning to Control Your Emotions

Some of us have great control over our emotional responses, and some of us struggle. Doing or saying the wrong thing in the midst of an emotional meltdown could have very negative effects. Say something your boss doesn’t like and you could be out of a job.

Gain control of your emotions with these strategies:

1. Realize that negative emotions simply don’t last. If you’re angry about something right now, you’ll probably be over it by next year, next week, or even by tomorrow. But emotions tend to focus our attention right here and now. We don’t consider the potential long-term consequences that a temporary emotional state can create.

* Who hasn’t done or said something in the heat of the moment that’s caused great remorse? Your anger, fear, resentment, or other negative emotion will fade quickly enough. Your rash response may not.

2. Examine your emotions. Learn to notice when you’re getting emotional. When you notice yourself reacting strongly, ask yourself why. Try to label the emotion.

* Analyze why you’re feeling that particular emotion and then admit it to yourself. This way, you can avoid rationalizing your behavior, which is a nice way of saying “lie to yourself.” If you know the real reason you’re feeling the way you do, you’re more able to do something about it.

3. Create space. Many of the challenges created by our emotions could be eliminated if we could just take a moment before reacting. Getting upset isn’t something that happens to us. It’s something we do to ourselves, and some of us are very good at it.

4. Find a role model. Would you take stock tips from a homeless man? Probably not! Learn emotional control from those that maintain their composure regardless of the circumstances.

* When you find such a person, ask them how they do it. The answers you receive could make all the difference.

5. Find a healthy way to release negative emotions. Our actions can influence our moods. If you’re feeling bored while watching TV, there’s no reason to continue watching TV. Immediately get up and go for a walk. Go to the library and find an interesting book. Call a friend. Exercise is a great way to release energy.

* You don’t have to passively accept your mood. Go do something else and change it!

6. Try altering your breathing. Many people assume that emotions are entirely psychological, but there is a physical component. Realize that all emotions are ultimately experienced as physical feelings in your body. You’ve just learned to label certain body feelings with names like “anger” and “fear.”

* The only part of your physiology that can be easily controlled is your breathing. Take a look at how you’re breathing during a strong emotional response and change it.

* A few ideas you can try are holding your breath for 5 seconds, breathing deeply and slowly for 30 seconds, breathe in slowly and breathe out even more slowly. Think about your breathing and count your breaths. Focus on the physical feeling of the air moving in and out of your body.

If you’re used to being controlled by your emotions, you know that it’s not easy to maintain your composure. But you can choose to respond differently to your emotions and make wiser choices. Negative emotions exist to inform us that something might be amiss. They are not there to control us.

How to Recover From an Embarrassing Case of Stage Fright

Have you ever been a victim of stage fright? You were beyond prepared for your speech or performance, yet nothing came out of your mouth. You now feel devastated because of that embarrassing experience!

Luckily, it really isn’t the end of the world. Your imperfection just means you’re human. You can move past such an embarrassing stage fright experience and feel 100 times better after working through this recovery process.

Learn how to recover and regain the courage to step back on stage with these simple steps:

1. Relax. Avoid waiting too long to start your relaxation routine. The minute you’re off the stage, take the time to get your mind and body at ease. It’s going to be difficult to get the embarrassing situation off your mind, but do your best.

* Ask those around you to give you five minutes to yourself. Close the door and put some music on. Zone out completely and unwind. This approach helps to take your mind off what just happened and go back to the things in life that make you happy.

* Remember that your misstep doesn’t equate to failure. It’s just a minor distraction that you can easily bounce back from.

2. Recap. Once you’ve gotten your mind to a relaxed state, think about what happened. Recap where you fell short. Try to determine what caused you to freeze up. Replay the whole incident in your head and come to terms with it.

* Did you happen to go out there with doubt already in your mind? This is the easiest way to break in front of an audience!

* Is it that you weren’t prepared enough? If you know your content from beginning to end, it becomes a part of you. Avoid letting nerves take that away in the future.

3. Practice. At this point, you’ve probably identified what went wrong. Now it’s time to work on those things. Sure, being on stage is more intimidating than practicing in front of a familiar audience. But working on the tiny elements will help you get better.

* Break up your stage appearance into its smallest parts. What’s your focus when you go on stage? Having a focal point helps to calm the nerves.

* Maybe there’s something in your approach that you might want to change. Was it your entrance or how you were dressed? Give it some thought and consider different options.

4. Reaffirm. This is one of the most important steps. Reaffirming helps you believe in yourself. It’s important if you plan to go on stage again.

* Participate in activities you’re good at. It’s the perfect way to get back that self-confidence and remind yourself how awesome you are.

* Take a look at your track record. How many successes have you had in the past? Those happened out of true talent. Avoid down-playing your accomplishments. You’re a natural at winning!

Keep in mind that a case of stage fright doesn’t define you. It’s something that you can overcome with relative ease. Believe in yourself and go for it!

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